Afraid of Rejection: You are not good enough. This is why you fear rejection. Let us face it. If you were good enough you wouldn’t be rejected. You fear judgement when you meet someone new. You want to be validated by people you don’t rally care about. This validation, fear of rejection can hamper your progress and stop you from achieving your goals. You are not afraid of rejection but your ego is. What will happen to it , if you are rejected? Yes, shattered. This is the reason behind your fear of rejection.
There are five simple ways to keep this fear of rejection up and running.
IT IS NOT NATURAL
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To continue fearing rejection you should make yourself believe that fear is unnatural . Say to yourself that it is not very common. Just live in it instead of accepting it and learning how to cope up with it.
BE A PEOPLE PLEASER
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Try pleasing everyone around you. The need to be liked by everyone and the desire to be in everyone’s good books will keep you insecure and anxious. You will want to make everyone happy by not falling into their bad books. This will keep your fear of rejection up and running.
GIVE A LOT OF IMPORTANCE TO OTHER PEOPLE’S OPINIONS
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Everyone is entitled to their opinion. Everyone has an opinion. Some keep it to themselves. Some flaunt it. Remember to give importance to all of their opinions and think that their opinions matter and whatever they say should be taken as the truth.
RUN YOUR IMAGINATION WILD WITH NEGATIVITY
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Take a simple situation, over complicate it in your head. Take the worse scenario possible, it might be impossible but still just take and repeat it over and over in your head. Watch reruns and marathons of this negative and dark cinema of your rejection in your head. This will multiply your fear of rejection.
DON’T FACE YOUR FEARS
Your fear of rejection might have made a mountain out of a mole hill. If you want to maintain your fear of rejection intact then don’t face any of your fears. It might be a simple thing as asking the girl or guy you like out ,or something bigger as asking for a hike in your salary or promotion. Use the first four ways to maintain the fear of rejection. You will be stuck in rut and will not be able to make any progress after that.
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Author: The Brown Nomad
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